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Monitor Television: For What Reasons?

Of course it was necessary that I introduce my daughter to my favorite television shows and movies of my child. From The Berenstain Bears and The Smurfs, To Emmett Otter’s Jugband Christmas, The Muppet Movies, and Charlie Brown, the immersion has been slow but always well received.

The difference between those I have mentioned and the television of today goes beyond the visual. The more she watches “vintage” television the more reluctant I am to put on new T.V while Sid the Science Kid is commendable the nuances of humor are lost. There is no subtle sarcasm and literary references in Superwhy. Sesame Street remains impressive.

Maybe this is obvious but the dumbing down of television is not helping anyone.  This object referred to as the “boob tube”continues to descend into the pits of human intellect, humor, and overall effort.

I write this with The Muppet’s Movie (1979) playing in the background, and my daughter completely engaged with it. I am impressed with her attention span and appreciation . In fact, I am wondering if I need to monitor her television watching more. Not for violence or inappropriate content but for content that is less than engaging or thought provoking.

This makes me wonder, do we need a new parental control?

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Thirty-Five Months

My daughter will be three in July. The days of speaking about her age in months is making an exit. Let’s face it saying your child 36 months as as awkward as saying your own age in months.

The baby years are gone. The toddler years are giving way to the
preschool-er years.

This is a time if letting go, acceptance, and anticipation. We are letting go of the baby (although that is what we call her and maybe always will). I have accepted, proudly, that she is my only child. I anticipate learning about and enjoying this little kid who has taken over my house and my life in a way I could only have hoped for.

Why Do They Want Dinner Every Night?

It’s not just a meme generated cliche, making dinner can go from delightful to drudgery within three business days. When I was a kid, growing up in my grandmother’s house, dinner was on the table by 5pm every night.

Yes, that did seem a little early. It wasn’t until I was cooking for my own family that I realized how much the woman just wanted to get it over with. It’s not just the idea of dinner. It’s the planning, preparation, cooking, serving, and cleanup that sucks the life right out of you.  After 40 years of cooking meals for her quasi- grateful family, the woman packed it in with frozen fried chicken and taco night.

Historically, dinner is a pain in the ass. Think of the words of Mick Jagger, ” she buys an instant cake and burns a frozen steak,” the woman in “Mother’s Little Helper” sedates herself in an effort to mentally prepare to the mind numbing experience of preparing a nightly meal.

No, dinner can’t always be high brow, gourmet or foodie-ish. Sometimes, it’s just what happens between getting home from work and going to to bed. While I do believe that it should be a family affair, most people do not associate meal time bonding with preparing the meal as much as just the eating of the meal.

These are a few of my go-to items when I just can’t deal with making “a real” dinner:

1. Eggs: Put them in a sandwich, fritatta, whatever.

2. Pancakes

3. Pasta with garlic, oil, and spinach: For some reason this one is always a hit.

4. A large salad

5. Order a pizza

Yes, when in doubt get a pizza. That’s about as close to fast food as I get but it’s usually economical and a life saver.  As much as I plan my meals for the week and shop with them in mind, I realize that there are going to be nights when it’s just not going to happen. Ugh. Just thinking about this makes me wonder what I have planned for dinner.

A Different Diet, Fewer Allergies

In the midst of a particularly difficult Spring for allergy sufferers I read this article from The Huffington Post. I have battled chronic perennial allergies since I was a child. I have had allergy shots, sprays, decongestants, inhalers, and daily medication. Two months ago, I suffered a sinus headache that left me nauseated and bed ridden for two days.

The attack occurred in the late afternoon in the beginning of tree season (those cool, breezy days that seem beautiful when in reality there air is full of pollen and mold), after I had eaten breakfast and lunch (I had a bowl of whole grain cereal at each meal with almond milk because I can be a lazy vegetarian.) Anyway, in the throws of nausea I realized that I hadn’t digested anything I ate this day. It sounds gross but it made me wonder if any of the food triggered this headache.

Years ago, I suffered from Gastro-Esphogeal Reflux Disease. When it stopped responding to medication, I put myself on the blandest, vegan diet I could create and tracked every food I slowly integrated into my diet until I realized I had an issue with MSG and preservatives. No more GERD issues and no more medication after this discovery. With my allergies, I have never tried to change my diet outside of avoiding foods that I know contain pollen like Saffron and edible flowers. A fried zucchini flower almost sent me to the emergency room about 15 years ago.

An easy Google search for “foods to avoid if you are allergic to pollen and ragweed” collectively suggested to avoid bananas, melons, zuccini, celery, cucumbers, tomatoes, whole wheat, and rice.

If you are allergic to mold it is best to avoid mushrooms, dairy, smoked, pickled, and fermented meat, fermented vegetables and condiments (like soy sauce and vinegar), beer, cider,  cheese (especially cheese with visible mold, fermented dairy (yogurt, cottage cheese, sour cream, and buttermilk), and leftovers.

Of all these foods, the only one I am really having trouble avoiding is cheese. Discovering that cucumbers and leftovers  are bad for me is certainly not the worst news I will ever hear. As someone who has spent years dieting I am almost giddy to learn that I now have a medical reason to avoid celery and cottage cheese!  Ultimately, it seems like root vegetables are the safest  so long as they are completely organic.

Since that horrendous sinus headache and the research that followed, I have spent the last two months eliminating all of these foods from my diet. I don’t want to jinx myself but it is working. I still get sinus headaches but they are much easier to treat with OTC medication and they don’t last as long. My digestion has improved as well as my symptoms of asthma.  I am down to  taking Zyrtec daily and my rescue inhaler (which I hardly use these days).

The lesson here is this. I am not a doctor but a “seasoned” allergy sufferer  allergic to mold, pollen, ragweed, dust, and dander.  After altering my diet, this Spring has not been the worst for me. My sinus headaches are decreasing.  My best, non-professional advice is we need to be aware of what we put into our bodies, especially now with GMO’s, factory farming, and climate change it has to matter. It has to impact how we feel.  If you suffer from allergy issues, give this a try. It can’t hurt.
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Of course, a little moderation may help too.

Princess Mommy

My  toddler has recently become intrigued by a wedding picture of my husband and I that hangs in our bedroom. “Mommy, you were a princess?” she asks as she points to the photograph of my in my balloon skirted wedding gown.
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“Not exactly, sweetie” I reply

“Mommy, you were a princess?” she asks?

What I am thinking is if you want to call a snarky workaholic, who managed to get hitched twice in her twenties, a princess be my guest.  Fortunately, she is only interested in the immediate  context of this photograph. She recognizes mommy and daddy.

Because of this photograph, for the first time in  my entire life ,I am being referred to as a princess.  She’s marvelling at the aesthetic and this “cleaning up” of the human form for your wedding day, the only association she can make is that of “princess.”  I have never wanted to be called a princess. Nor have I ever lived my life with “royal expectations” but if she sees me as a princess then here is my chance.

This picture can take her beyond the “happily ever after” and directly into the example that her mother, her parents, have set for her.

Being a questioned by a toddler means answering the same question multiple times in row.

“Mommy, you were a princess?”

“Yes, sweetie.”

Mediterranean Couscous Salad

Couscous is a hidden gem of meal time starches. Although, it is is made of semolina it is has a fluffy texture that is much lighter than pasta. It cooks faster than rice and is very economical. It can be a good gateway food to introduce new textures. In other words, try giving your kids Couscous before introducing Millet or Quinoa.

On top of all these benefits is that Couscous can also be used cold much in the way of pasta salad. This recipe for Mediterranean Couscous Salad can be whipped up in 15 minutes and will be just as good cold the next day.

You will need:

1 box of Near East Couscous (I prefer the plain variety)

1 Tomato seeded and diced

1/2 Medium Red Onion diced

1/8 cup of Feta cheese

2 tablespoons of Extra Virgin Olive Oil

1 teaspoon of Red Wine Vinegar (these are to personal taste)

Salt and pepper

1/4 teaspoon basil and oregano

* Don’t be afraid to get creative with this dish and add other salad favorites like olives or arugula leaves.

Prepare the Couscous according to the instructions on the box and leave it to cool off while the other ingredients are being prepped. Dice the tomato and onion. In a medium bowl add the tomato, onion, cheese, oil, vinegar, salt and pepper. (Loose baby spinach leaves work well here too). Stir gently to combine. Add 1 1/2 cups of the Couscous. Stir again and transfer to a serving bowl (if desired).  Save the rest for kiddies who may not like the flavor profile here.

Remember, the next time you come home from work and you want a fast cooking starchy side dish: when in doubt, make Couscous.

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Mother’s Day Advice From A Mom

Mother’s day weekend is upon us. Somehow it has turned from one day to an entire weekend.  The greeting card aisles of most stores in my area have been scoured all week. Restaurants are gearing up for the big Sunday brunch push.  I hate to say it but it’s a big Hallmark holiday.

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate a nice card but it’s not necessary. My daughter made me a little gift in school and it’s the most perfect and appropriate gesture.

Restaurants and spas have become the go-to sources for Mother’s day celebrations in an attempt to offer rest.  I may not turn down a trip to either of these any other day of the week but on Mother’s day it’s a little contrived.

I’m not speaking for everyone but if you really want to give mom a break on mother’s day, consider spending the day doing everything that she does. All the little things that miraculously “get done” around your house, from laundry to toilet cleaning,  is not the work of elves.  Ask her for a list of things that she would like done. I don’t mean chore coupons. I mean get that list and get to work.  Consider giving Mom the gift of time; the time to let her go and do something on her own, of her choosing, while everything else accomplished.

Even if this means she is just sitting on the couch; it could be a magical treat.

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